Transforming Self-Doubt can be central to other big and happy changes in how we view ourselves and the world. Sometimes it only takes a little shift in perspective to trigger a whole domino effect of change in our view of ourselves. I had one along time ago when I was in a destructive relationship. The man I was involved with said I was screaming at him. All of a sudden it dawned on me that I wasn’t screaming, or even raising my voice, but I was saying something he did not want to hear. I checked with people who were in the same house and they confirmed it. They hadn’t even heard me talking, let alone screaming. I was prepared to apologize! I learned more and more as time went on that self-doubt was not a necessary or helpful way to look at myself. Being willing to be wrong is easier, and much more effective than just doubting ourselves. A simple course correction is easy when we see we are wrong about something. Doubt is not required! Openness to something beyond being right or wrong is a healthier and much more effective approach to life! It also makes us feel freer to explore possibilities rather than clamp down on ourselves with doubt. This brings me to the title of this blog. Empowerment is natural! When we simply allow ourselves to be, there is no need for doubt and we can make a course correction if we need to based on learning new information, finding a great resource, finding a supportive and complementary mentor, etc. This can take some practice but as with most of what we teach at Unlimited Psychology (UP, LLC) these “new” perspectives are things that are already in place and always have been! Going with the flow does not require us to develop a habit of doubting ourselves, and going with the flow can be one of the most empowering things we can do for ourselves.
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