The Illusion of Responsibility

The Illusion of Responsibility

As I write this post I am in the midst of letting go of a layer of conditioning that has kept me bundled up in guilt, blame and shame.   The belief that “it’s all my fault, it’s my responsibility.”  “Beating yourself up” is another way to refer to this illusion, or at least a side effect of believing in it.  These false beliefs may develop in childhood when we take on the burden of something that couldn’t possibly be our fault, but we try to fix things in our world in an attempt to feel better and make others in our lives feel better too.  We may simply be unaware of the option to just be, to just let things be, and to just be ourselves.  We might be vulnerable to this because of “past life” predisposition, or we may incorporate our parents inability to just be or let things be as they are, or other reasons.  In essence, we take on a sense of responsibility for others and for things that just are not within our control.  We could also call this codependence, but the illusion of responsibility can be even more toxic, convincing, all encompassing, invasive and downright debilitating!  The good news is that we can live beyond it!  Especially when we do not try to make it go away, paradoxically, the illusion of responsibility begins to loose its grip on us. (If  you wish you can Get a Free Report which Reveals 3 Tones of Empowerment by joining our email list when you click the purple box at the bottom of this post.)   In much the same way...
Empowerment is Natural

Empowerment is Natural

Transforming Self-Doubt can be central to other big and happy changes in how we view ourselves and the world. Sometimes it only takes a little shift in perspective to trigger a whole domino effect of change in our view of ourselves.  I had one along time ago when I was in a destructive relationship.   The man I was involved with said I was screaming at him.  All of a sudden it dawned on me that I wasn’t screaming, or even raising my voice,  but I was saying something he did not want to hear.  I checked with people who were in the same house and they confirmed it.  They hadn’t even heard me talking, let alone screaming.  I was prepared to apologize!  I learned more and more as time went on that self-doubt was not a necessary or helpful way to look at myself.  Being willing to be wrong is easier, and much more effective than just doubting ourselves.  A simple course correction is easy when we see we are wrong about something.  Doubt is not required!  Openness to something beyond being right or wrong is a healthier and much more effective approach to life!  It also makes us feel freer to explore possibilities rather than clamp down on ourselves with doubt.  This brings me to the title of this blog.  Empowerment is natural!  When we simply allow ourselves to be, there is no need for doubt and we can make a course correction if we need to based on learning new information, finding a great resource, finding a supportive and complementary mentor, etc.  This can take some practice...
Start the New Year By Transforming Self-Doubt!!

Start the New Year By Transforming Self-Doubt!!

Hello and Welcome to our latest blog post!   Although many of us do get caught in the the trap of self-doubt, or we get stuck in not so supportive states, we also have the capacity to embrace and live in a state of freedom even while we are still learning to adapt to life without doubting ourselves.  Self-Doubt is a state that can mirror addiction.  However the most important purpose of this work is to come to peace with our current level of development, not to make our states of mind “wrong.”  The time has come for us to learn to accept where we are, even those things we find “unacceptable.”  There are tremendous gifts in the areas we find “bad” or “negative” that we miss when we allow our consciousness to be locked into duality.  These are parts of us we have decided that are “bad” and must be buried or hidden, or kept from the light.  When we simply breath and allow what is to be, we open the door to miracles and find we can transform self-doubt.  In fact it is one of my favorite realizations that we can actually trust ourselves to the same degree that we have self-doubt!  I know this might sound weird but I’m finding it to be true more and more!!  So click the purple button to download the 3 Tones of Empowerment and get the new year started by turning your perspective around to embrace your true nature! Click to Get Your Free...

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